Day 7: Make A Date
We’re coming to the end of our Ex-Free bootcamp.
I hope you have tried all the steps (or you plan on at least going through
them properly when you have time =)
This last one might be quite daunting for you. You’re still not over your ex so the thought of dating someone new will frighten you. It’s important that you do make a effort however. Even if you don’t think you can do it, you need to do it, if just to meet someone new, you never know what might happen. Most likely nothing, but then at least you won’t be sitting around at home thinking of your ex all night.
Where do you find a date? Well there’s plenty of online dating sites, some are good, some not so. Here I’ve listed some of the better ones.
I prefer you to go out with someone you have met before already but if there just is no one, the online alternative is a fast solution to getting a date.
I suggest not to do too many emails back and forth. Find someone that seems interesting and most compatible and set to meet as soon as possible. This will prevent you both from wasting each other’s time and you can get this exercise over with quickly =)
Do call and meet at a public place to be safe and always tell others where you are, you can’t be too careful.
Now the most important thing… your mindset during the date will determine how much you will enjoy it.
If you go into a date dreading it and thinking you are just doing it to say you’ve done it, then stop! The point of this exercise isn’t just to date for the sake of dating; you want to open yourself up to new possibilities. If you go into it with a closed-mind, that’s exactly what you will get out, a terrible experience that will probably traumatize you from dating in the future.
Now if you tell yourself you’re just going to have fun and enjoy yourself, you’ll be surprised that you actually WILL enjoy yourself.
Sure you might get a dud and they might be the most boring people in the world, but don’t let that stop yourself from having fun. Just let things happen and make the most of what you have. It probably helps to schedule something fun to actually do but I know that might not always be possible.
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